I remembered during my younger teenage years that we would dream of the perfect ending with the girl we like, to love each other till the end of time, where the mutual feelings for one another would be everlasting. However as I grow older and more mature, I am beginning to see the real yet harsh reality that love is no more than another word used by couples to one another.
From dictionary.com, Love can be defined as ‘A profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person’.
Many couples use the words ever so often (including me), but months or years down the road, they go their separate ways. What happened to the declaration of their love and affection towards one another? That is why I am trying to restrict the use of that word to any future girlfriends. I don’t see any significance of using that word to decorate the feelings I have towards her when I am not certain myself as to whether we will be the one for each other 5 years down the road.
I find it extremely difficult to relate to the phrase ‘Love at first sight’, how can we love someone we have only seen in the flesh for the very first time. And similarly how can you love someone whom you have no relation to?
I find myself to be a very rash person. Sometimes I make decisions in the heat of moment under some influences, and I end up regretting it. In some ways, I am similar to Xinyun, if I am not satisfied with one relationship, I would jump to a better one, one which would put me in a comfort zone. I am one who always looks for excitement in a relationship, always needing some fresh thrills.
As long as a girl physically attracts me, and I get along well with her, that could already be a base for the start of a whole new relationship. I say forget about whether there are any special feelings between us. Time will tell whether we are the perfect partner for each other. As long as I feel happy and enjoy spending time with her, that is sufficient to sustain me in a relationship.
Does anyone have an answer to what love is in your own terms?
22 year old fitness enthusiast currently pursuing a Bachelor in Computer Science at the University of Adelaide and aspiring to become a Web Developer in the near future. 
It was never “Love at First Sight”. A romantic wrote it. The truth is that it should have been “Lust at First Sight”.
If you find yourself jumping from one relationship to another when the current one gives you dissatisfaction, then I’m afraid you’ve never loved(In my own definition lar).
True love is never even blinking when you have to sacrifice yourself for the other’s safety. But like all things in this practical world, everything is grey. (I won’t stick to a girl i love if she cheats)
So, to summarize, all i said and dicationary.com’s defination doesn’t matter. Cuz the reason that make you rmb the woman tt you ‘loved’ the most (doesn’t have to be your wife) is the answer to love.
Thanks for your input Kris, it lets me see another perspective.
I believe in whatever relationship I am in, the most important thing is for me to be happy and satisfied in it. If I can’t achieve that, for me it would be better off being single.
This world is practical, there is no fairy tale endings I am afraid. The word ‘love’ has long disappeared from my reaches
i don’t believe in love at first sight, like you’ve said, it’s most likely lust… but having been at the receiving end and looking like crap and yet someone telling you they fell for you at first sight, it makes you wonder, does it really exist?
now, love would be willing to go that extra mile for that someone, just to make him / her happy and never expecting any returns.
It’s not ‘lust on first sight’ for me but I usually can’t like someone until after knowing her for at least a few months. And it has to be based on observations that the two of us can get along and do have genuine feelings for each other, and should be basically compatible.
But I don’t trust love nowadays…it’s just been overcomplicated by so many external factors. True love does not exist in my dictionary…only conditional love do.
Love is when you are still holding hands even when you turn grey.
Nice post. Different people view love differently so there is never an accurate meaning to this word.
But to me love is what makes me smile uncontrollably whenever i think of her and i will also do whatever it takes to make her smile.
Love yourself,before you start loving others
This is awsome! look forward to more thanks!
Hmm.. love is a big big thing…
love between 2 people… love between a couple…
agape love: unconditional love
i think there is not special one that is designated for u. i think many can be the special one, if u nuture the relationship… yah, sometimes promises to love forever doesn’t last… but does that mean that you dun say “i love u” anymore? it just doesn’t make sense. cos even if u eat a bowl of bad rice one day, u still eat rice another day. but yah, the process hurts… it is still a mystery… love between 2 parties… whether family members or friends… but i know love exists. and the perfect love is the love that God has for us.
in the meantime, i am still looking for love (life partner)
jiayou!!! =D