Blog Your Memoir
9 Nov 2007
I was just cracking my brain on what I wanted to write today and up came Lorelle’s weekly blog challenge on my feed reader.
This week’s challenge is to write an auto-biography, on the theme of ‘My Life’.
I haven’t actually written one before, so I would appreciate any constructive criticism or complement on my first attempt. I shall be blogging about how my life was enriched and put on the right direction.
For those who do not know me, I grew up in a dysfunctional family due to the divorce of my parents at a very young age. I have been living with my mother ever since, as such I hardly saw my dad or get many opportunities to interact with him. This created a very shy, afraid and low on confidence young boy; till today I yearn to grow up in a complete family and feel the bliss of living together under one roof.
The closest person to you would be your partner, one whom you share a special relationship with. It was only till I had 1 that I finally realized how it feels to be specially loved and to be cared for.
Slowly, I began to have trust in others and open my heart to them. I knew how to dream to my future, to express my feelings and to become a more confident person overall.
The memories which have passed me by are unforgettable, each and every detail simply brings a smile to me, no matter what emotions were filled with it, be it a positive or negative one.
Though I am no longer in a relationship with the girl I owe so much to, I still want to thank her for helping to re-coat my life with optimism and colors. This is 1 person I find it extremely difficult to erase from my memories because of all the wonderful things she has done for me.
I have so many dreams to fulfill and so many tasks I want to challenge myself to, including finding a partner whom I can settle down with. If I was the same boy back then, all these would be tasks deemed impossible to achieve.
Well done! Thanks for taking on the challenge.
However, welcome to normalcy, not dysfunctional. I still don’t know why we keep using that word. It’s more “normal” for children to be from divorced families, even multiple divorces not just one, than it is for a family to be wholesome and together. You are one in the crowd, so you are not alone.
I used to think that finding the “right person” to share my life with was the most important thing in the world. After much disaster, I learned that loving myself was the most important thing in the world. By concentrating on me, my life, my goals, my education, my enrichment and growth, in time, I would attract someone attracted to “me”, not my need.
It took a very long time but I got it. Along the way, I learned how to be a friend and how to choose friends, and my friends are now closer than family, my rocks. My husband is my rock, but I now have many rocks, not one, a much better looking basket, don’t you think?
See what happens when you share some of yourself with the world? Amazing things. Thanks for participating and being so open.
I used the word ‘dysfunctional’ because it isn’t the norm in Singapore to grow up in a single parent family, everywhere I look around I see blissful and happy families. I can’t help but feel envious of them.
I too am concentrating on living my life to the fullest, finish my service to my country, get into a university to further my studies in IT and to be able to travel around the world. So many things I want to do … But I don’t want to keep these achievements to myself, I want to share it with someone, that would truly be happiness.
It is great to be able to rely on many ‘rocks’ besides your special one. It is like a website with visitors, it is nice to have a fanatic, but it is even better to have a fanatic and many other regular readers.
I make it a point not to keep so many personal things away from my blog, after all this is a place where I express myself. Thanks Lorelle once again for commenting and letting me know of another perspective
When I grew up, I also saw many “blissful” families around me and was envious. I learned later that it was an illusion. It is very possible an illusion around you, too. Trust you are normal and just one of us.
Perhaps you are right, I shall continue pursuing the things of utmost importance now, to mature even further and concentrate on building myself.